Do you remember your baby's very first cry? From the moment of birth, babies begin to communicate.
At first, your newborn's cries may seem like a foreign language. But
before you know it, you'll learn your baby's "language" and be able to
answer your little one's needs.
How Babies Communicate
Babies are born with the ability to cry, which is how they
communicate for a while. Your baby's cries generally tell you that
something is wrong: an empty belly, a wet bottom, cold feet, being
tired, or a need to be held and cuddled, etc.
Soon you'll be able to recognize which need your baby is expressing
and respond accordingly. In fact, sometimes what a baby needs can be
identified by the type of cry - for example, the "I'm hungry" cry may be
short and low-pitched, while "I'm upset" may sound choppy.
Your baby may also cry when overwhelmed by all of the sights and
sounds of the world, or for no apparent reason at all. Don't be too
upset when your baby cries and you aren't able to console him or her
immediately: crying is one way babies shut out stimuli when they're
overloaded.
Crying is a baby's main method of communication, but they're also
capable of other, more subtle forms. Learning to recognize them is
rewarding and can strengthen your bond with your baby.
A newborn can differentiate between the sound of a human voice and
other sounds. Try to pay attention to how your little one responds to
your voice, which he or she already associates with care: food, warmth,
touch.
If your baby is crying in the bassinet, see how quickly your
approaching voice quiets him or her. See how closely your baby listens
when you talk in loving tones. Your baby may not yet coordinate looking
and listening, but even when staring into the distance, he or she will
be paying close attention to your voice as you speak. Your baby may
subtly adjust body position or facial expression, or even move the arms
and legs in time with your speech.
Sometime during your newborn's first month, you may get a glimpse of a
first smile - a welcome addition to your baby's communication skills!
What Should I Do?
As soon as you hold your baby after birth, you'll begin to
communicate with each other by exchanging your first glances, sounds,
and touches. Babies quickly learn about the world through their senses.
As the days after birth pass, your newborn will become accustomed to
seeing you and will begin to focus on your face. The senses of touch and
hearing are especially important, though.
Your baby will be curious about noises, but none more so than the
spoken voice. Talk to your baby whenever you have the chance. Even
though your baby doesn't understand what you're saying, your calm,
reassuring voice conveys safety. With almost every touch your newborn is
learning about life, so provide lots of tender kisses, and your little
one will find the world a soothing place.
Communicating with newborns is a matter of meeting their needs.
Always respond to your newborn's cries - babies cannot be spoiled with
too much attention. Indeed, prompt responses to babies' cries lets them
know that they're important and worthy of attention.
There will probably be times when you have met all needs, yet your
infant continues to cry. Don't despair - your baby may be
overstimulated, have too much energy, or just need a good cry for no
apparent reason.
It's common for babies to have a fussy period about the same time
every day, generally between early evening and midnight. Though all
newborns cry and show some fussiness, when an infant who is otherwise
healthy cries for more than 3 hours per day, more than 3 days per week
for at least 3 weeks, it is a condition known as colic. This can be upsetting, but the good news is that it's short-lived - most babies outgrow it at around 3 months of age.
You can try to soothe your baby. Some are comforted by motion, such
as rocking or being walked back and forth across the room, while others
respond to sounds, like soft music or the hum of a vacuum cleaner. It
may take some time to find out what best comforts your baby during these
stressful periods.
Should I Be Concerned?
Talk to your doctor if your baby seems to cry for an unusual length
of time, if the cries sound odd to you, or if the crying is associated
with decreased activity, poor feeding, or unusual breathing or
movements. Your doctor will be able to reassure you or look for a
medical reason for your baby's distress. Chances are there is nothing
wrong, and knowing this can help you relax and stay calm when your baby
is upset.
Here are some other reasons for prolonged crying:
- The baby is ill. A baby who cries more when being held or rocked may
be sick. Call your doctor, especially if the baby has a temperature of
100.4°F (38°C) or more.
- The baby has an eye irritation. A scratched cornea or "foreign body"
in a baby's eye can cause redness and tearing. Call your doctor.
- The baby is in pain. An open diaper pin or other object could be
hurting the baby's skin. Take a close look everywhere, even each finger
and toe (sometimes hair can get wrapped around a baby's tiny digits and
cause pain).
If you have any questions about your newborn's ability to see or
hear, you should bring them to your doctor's attention immediately. Even
newborns can be tested using sophisticated equipment, if necessary. The
sooner a potential problem is caught, the better it can be treated.